Facebook vs. Twitter: Where The Readers Are

Photo by Ed Yourdon (flickr cc)Facebook or Twitter? It's a question that people seem to have definite feelings on. Most people prefer one strongly and see the other as a pain. In the past, I've made it no secret that I'm a Twitter girl. I like the fast pace and the simple interface. I like that I can follow a bunch of people and get a little nibble of everything. And frankly, I use it as my blog reader now since I never seem to have time to keep up with my Google Reader.

However, over the last two months or so, I decided to put more effort into my Facebook presence. Many established authors swear by Facebook for connecting with readers, and I know that people are way more likely to be on Facebook than Twitter.

So I begin to put focus on FB and not just by copying tweets over there. FB and Twitter are inherently different in the kinds of updates that "fit." I also made the point of keeping FB more reader-focused than writing-focused. Twitter is filled with my fellow writers who don't mind hearing about word counts or craft-related things. But FB seemed to be getting more pure readers, so I didn't want to bore them with the technical side of writing.

And you know what? Yesterday, the difference in "crowd" became noticeable.

I posted a question on both Twitter and Facebook asking what I should put on a stamp I'm going to use when I send out signed bookplates. One option was my tagline "For the Fearless Romantic" and the other was "Greetings from The Ranch."  For those of you who aren't aware, The Ranch is the BDSM resort in my series.

So the results were very telling. Almost every one of my Twitter followers said the Fearless Romantic one. Then on Facebook, every vote was for The Ranch. It was amazing how divided it was.

And then I realized the difference. My writer friends were going for the one that spoke more to "author brand". We've been trained to think that way, to have that marketing hook. But my READERS who are already fans of the books were thrilled at the thought of having "Greetings from The Ranch." One line is meant to "sell" the books to new people. The other serves to entertain people who love the series already.

So, it was an easy decision. Anyone who is asking me for a bookplate is already a fan. Therefore, this needs to be for them. It's not about selling someone new on the book. If this were for promo material at a conference or something, the fearless romantic line would be the better fit. So it was a lesson in knowing who your audience is for something.

BUT, back to the point, this also showed me the clear distinction. Twitter is where my writer friends hang out. Facebook is where more readers are. (At least from my own anecdotal evidence and what I've heard from other authors.)

So which one should you do? 

Short answer: Both

Longer answer: If you don't have time for both, do which one you enjoy the most because that's the one you'll probably thrive at.

But here are some things to consider and make a good case for cultivating both...

Why Facebook Is Important?

  • It's the most likely place fans will look for you besides your website.
  • Not everyone is a social media addict (like we writers are). Your every day person may not read blogs, have a google plus profile, a Twitter account, or a Goodreads account. But even the most social media averse person probably has a Facebook page. My grandparents have one, my parents have one, my high school teachers have them. I'm hard pressed to think of someone I know who DOESN'T have one.
  • It allows you longer updates because not everything can be said in 140 characters.
  • It gives you the chance to put up exclusive content and sneak peeks to give your readers something extra for following you and reading your books.
  • You only have to post an update one or two times a day. So there is more opportunity for interaction about one topic.
  • It's easy for people to share you with their friends.


Why Twitter Is Important?

  • There is an incredible writer community on there. Writing is a solitary business. Hanging out on Twitter is like the office water cooler. You can go there for gossip, encouragement, or just to vent to each other. 
  • Some readers do prefer Twitter and that will continue to grow.
  • It is a wealth of blog link love. Like I said, it acts as my blog reader these days.
  • It's more casual than FB in my opinion. Since you can update throughout the day, each update doesn't have to be super profound. : )
  • It's easy to share things via Twitter.
  • It doesn't have all the restrictions like FB. And your followers see your updates--you don't have to pay extra to "promote".
  • You don't get a crap ton of emails anytime someone comments on something.
  • It's less of a commitment for someone to follow you on Twitter. Most people won't "Like" a FB page unless they are a fan already. But many people will follow you on Twitter just to check you out and see what you have to say. So it's easier to introduce yourself and your books to new people.

Each obviously has benefits and drawbacks. But I think if you can manage both, you're going to find you have a more well-rounded online presence. You want to make it as easy as possible for people to find you and connect with you.

So, if you aren't already there and want to hang out with me, you can find me on Twitter AND Facebook. ;)

What do you think? Do you have a preference? To those of you on both platforms, do you find a difference in the "crowd"? As a reader, do you seek out authors on any particular social network?

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week


My view at last night's dinner.

Sorry today's post is up very late and that I din't get a chance to comment back on your comments about love scenes this week. I've been on a beach vacation in Florida and had no idea that the hotel wouldn't have wireless internet. Ack. Not good a week before a book release let me tell you. But now I'm back (well, in New Orleans at least) where I have wifi again. Yay.

Hope you all had a great week. Here are the best links I came across (amazing how much blog reading you can get done by phone when you're stuck in a car for hours.).

On Writing/Publishing:

Writing Craft: Mechanics Vs Spark via PubRants

A Freelance Editor Talks About Authors’ “Habits” & Predictable Writing via Kill Zone

Is Reading Fiction . . . Safe? via WordServe Watercooler

4 Writing Crutches that Insult the Reader’s Intelligence via Kristen Lamb

A Quick Look At Tag lines via Pub Rants

25 Things You Should Know About Writing Sex via Chuck Wendig (He goes over a lot of what I cover in my class, only with more expletives.)

Maximizing Our Creativity–The Transformative Power of Q via Kristen Lamb

“Publishing isn’t a Meritocracy, it’s a Casino*” by Kameron Hurley

By the Numbers: Earning Out the Advance on a First Novel | Kameron Hurley

The Essential Guide to (Not) Responding to Critics by Jeff Goins

The Sharp Angle: Knowing When to Let Go


On Social Networking and Marketing:

Best of the Web Book Marketing Tips for the Week of June 25, 2012 via Author Marketing Experts

‘Social’: Over the Top via Writer Unboxed

How Should Writers Handle Facebook Frustrations? via Jody Hedlund

Why I Think Some Authors "Go Hermit" via Michelle Davidson Argyle

Writer Unboxed » 5 Encouraging Reasons To Build Your Writer Platform

Karen Baney » Marketing 101 For Authors

Why I Prefer Social Media Promo to In-Person | Mystery Writing is Murder

Where to Get Photos For Your Blog « Writerland

Writer Unboxed » I Have No More Advice Left to Give


That's all for me. Hope y'all have a good weekend. And remember next week is MELT INTO YOU release week! Woo-hoo!  

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Writing Links of the Week


Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho

 Need to catch up? Here are the best posts I've come across this week.

On Writing/Publsihing:

Beth Revis: How to Respond to Negative Reviews <--A must read

Stephen King’s 20 Tips for Becoming a Frighteningly Good Writer via Boost Blog Traffic

4 Reasons for Published Authors to Attend Conferences - Books & Such Literary Agency

Five tell-tale signs of a novice novelist « helencareybooks

Beating the Anxiety of Online Reading :zenhabits

Author, Jody Hedlund: Why Skimping on Macro Editing Could Cost You Readers

In Which I Get A Little Grumpy | Lauren Dane

Can You Hear the People Sing? :: The Knight Agency, Inc. -- A Literary Agency (on "no" not meaning "never" anymore)

Bad Girls, Good Guys, and Two-Fisted Action: The Horror of It All -- Writers on Being Scary With Words


On Social Media:

5 Types of Marketing Platforms: Which Is Right for You? | Goins, Writer

Should You Move from Wordpress.com to Wordpress.org? | Marcy Kennedy


Random Stuff:

13 books to read after Fifty Shades of Grey | Cassandra Carr

JCPenney Responds to Homophobic Boycott Calls with Gay Father's Day Ad <--go on with your bad self JC Penney


What You May Have Missed Here:


Made of Win Monday: Reading Binges


THE SIREN Takes Over Boyfriend of the Week



Readers Face the Slush Pile: A Few Hard Truths

(one of the most popular posts I've had in a long time)



Spice It Up Thursday: Sexy Role-Playing (And a STILL INTO YOU excerpt) 


Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!

Fill-Me-In Friday: Best Publishing Links of the Week

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho

 Need to catch up? It's that time of the week again--best links!

But first, I'm a guest over at the Save the Cat blog today talking about Why Your Writing Process Shouldn’t Be Sacred. Yes, I fangirled about Save the Cat so much online that they invited me over, lol. But seriously, that book changed my writing life. I'm a believer. :)
On Writing/Publishing:
On Social Networking:
What You May Have Missed Here:
So that's what I've got for the week. What were some of you favorite links this week?

Round-Up Time: Best Writing Links of the Week #atozchallenge

 It's that time of the week again. Time to round up the best writing links I've come across this week (and last week since I missed doing a round up while I was out of town.)

Here we go...

On Writing/Publishing:

Sara Megibow Sells Romance – What Do You Need To Know About Submissions? | Romance University

Four Secrets About Writer's Conference Faculty - Marcy Kennedy

Pens for Paws Auction <--Check out a good cause

Reading and Writing Negative Reviews | Wistfully Linda

Writing Conferences–Beware of Crossing Deer « Kristen Lamb's Blog

Julie Anne Lindsey | Don’t Quit Your Day Job «Musings from the Slush Pile

Sierra Godfrey: Back away slowly from 1-star reviews

Sierra Godfrey: A year of baby and writing

Why every man MUST read a romance – and every woman a thriller | The Red Pen of Doom

Romance novelists are secret, epic army of man boosters | The Red Pen of Doom

My favorite quality in a romance novel - Kat Latham


On Blogging/Social Networking/Business:

58 Ways to Create Persuasive Content Your Audience Will Love | Copyblogger

What Mascara, Thai Food & Julia Child Can Teach Us About Social Media Success - Kristen Lamb

The 7 Bad Habits of Insanely Productive People | Copyblogger <--LOVE this


What You May Have Missed Here in the A to Z Challenge:


Got Rhythm? Finding It In Your Story



How To Dish Out Backstory In Digestible Bites 



Ian Somerhalder - Boyfriend of the Week



Kink & BDSM 101 - What It Is & Why It's So Popular In Books



Like Me! - How to Create Sympathetic Characters



Man Up: Writing Male POV



The (Not So) Dreaded Synopsis



Orlando Bloom - Boyfriend of the Week



Picky, Picky - The Danger of Authors Being Too Clique-y on Twitter



Question: Book Series/TV Show You Wish You Could Experience Again for the 1st Time


Whew, all right, that's all two weeks worth. What have been some of your favorite links this week?

Hope everyone has a great weekend! :)


Fill Me In Friday - Best Writing Links of the Week

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho

Busy week? Need to catch up? It's that time of the week again. Hope everyone has had a great one (and survived spring break with your kids!) This week's links list is actually a compilation from two weeks because I skipped last week. Hope you enjoy!
On Writing, Blogging, and Social Networking:
On the 50 Shades of Grey hoopla:
What You May Have Missed Here:
All right, that's what's I have this week. What were some of your favorite posts of the week? Anyone else ready for spring break to be over?

Fill Me In Friday - Best Writing Links of the Week


Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho

 Had a busy week? Need to catch up on the writing blogosphere? That's what Fill Me In Friday is all about. : )  This is where I gather up the best writing links I've come across this week. Enjoy!


On Writing/Publishing:

If Publicity Doesn’t Sell Books, What Does? « Meghan Ward's Writerland 

Focus Your Story | The Editor's Blog

Goodbye, Google Friend Connect–Now What? | Jami Gold, Paranormal Author

Can Blogging Help Your Writing Process? | Jenny Hansen's Blog

Make Me Stay: Author Blogs | Camryn Rhys

2 Ways to Make the Most of Goodreads | Jane Friedman

Lara Schiffbauer's Motivation for Creation: Blogging Your Naked Passion - Are You Brave Enough?

Are You a Purple Cow? | Author Media <--on standing out

Are Teens Embracing E-books? via Publisher's Weekly

Between Fact and Fiction: 10 Things I Wish I Would Have Done Differently (Natalie Whipple)

25 Things I Want To Say To So-Called “Aspiring” Writers by Chuck Wendig

25 Ways To Unf**k Your Story by Chuck Wendig 


On Romance Writing:

BDSM: A Conversation With Eden Bradley (a.k.a. Eve Berlin)

Oh, You Write THOSE Books – On Writing Romance | Nicole Basaraba (my guest post)


What You May Have Missed Here:

Made of Win Monday: Movies That TRULY Make You LOL



Boyfriend of the Week - Chris Pine



Enough With the Quid Pro Quo Blogging Etiquette - Free Yourself


All right, that's what I've got for the week. What are some of the best links you've seen this week? Hope you all have a great weekend! :)

Enough With the Quid Pro Quo Blogging Etiquette - Free Yourself


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First, a quick announcement--I'm blogging/ranting over at Nicole Basaraba's blog today: Oh, You Write THOSE Books – On Writing Romance  I'd love for y'all to stop by and say hi. :)

Alright, onto today's topic, which happens to be a bit of a rant as well, lol. Must be that kind of week for me...

Hang around the blogosphere long enough and you'll see the posts - How to Be a Good Bloggy Friend, Blogging Etiquette 101...hell, I even did one a few years ago. But I have to say, the posts and the concepts behind them are starting to grate on me a bit.

The main "rules" stem from the idea of bloggers supporting each other through reciprocity. You comment on my blog, I comment on yours. I follow you, you follow me. In theory, this is a nice thing to do. We all rally around and support each other.

And in the beginning, when you're first starting a blog, this is really the only way to get it rolling. You have to put yourself out there on other blogs so that people know you exist. No one wants to blog into the ether and have nobody hear it. So the reciprocity thing can be a great way to start making friends.

But where it starts to irritate me is when the other behaviors get labeled "bad" blogger behavior. For instance, you're a bad bloggy friend if you don't go and comment on everyone's posts who left you a comment that day. Or, you're not a "real" follower because you don't leave regular comments on a blog you follow or maybe you follow but don't stop by regularly.

Calling that "bad" behavior, my friends, is bulldookie. That behavior is real life. I would hope most of us have actual lives and obligations outside of the internet. We should not have to suffer a guilt trip because instead of visiting all of our blogroll that day, we turned off the computer and took our kid to the park. We shouldn't have to "catch up" at midnight and hit all those posts we missed out of some sense of obligation.

When did we become so self-centered? If you find yourself thinking, "Wow, I've left three comments on so and so's blog this week and she hasn't even retweeted mine. Well, fine, I'll show her, see if I visit her blog next week" then you're getting sucked into the me-me-me abyss. (We've all been there.) But do you really want a comment or a visit out of obligation? Because someone is "supposed" to stop by because you scratched their back? Are you only stopping by their blog so that you get a comment back?

Reciprocity is a nice thing, it should not be a requirement. When you make it a requirement in your head, it becomes self-serving. You're only commenting other places because you want people to come to your blog. Blogging relationships should not be quid pro quo.

If you want people to follow you, be followable. Write interesting, entertaining posts that people enjoy.

If you want people to comment, write posts that encourage discussion. And do try to participate in the discussion even if you can't answer every comment.

If you want to be a good bloggy friend, be genuine and don't do things with the ulterior motive of getting something in return.

This is why when I joined Triberr, I refused to join tribes that required you retweet every members posts every day. No way. I only retweet things that I find interesting or that I think my followers would like. Even my very favorite bloggers don't have a post relevant to me EVERY time. And I know that not everything I blog about is going to appeal to everyone every day. And that's perfectly okay.

So free yourself from that "obligation".

Comment on posts you find interesting or want to discuss.

Follow blogs that provide consistently good content.

And visit posts that catch your eye.

The making friends part will happen organically as you meet people who share similar interests.

In the end, this will make us all better bloggers because instead of counting on the quid pro quo follows/visits, we'll find out what content really connects with readers and which doesn't.

So what do you think? How do you feel about the quid pro quo thing? Do you ever feel blogger guilt because you haven't kept up with your friend "obligations"? Do you find yourself feeling resentment when someone doesn't return the favor?

Fill Me In Friday - Best Writing Links of the Week

Did I miss the train?

Photo by Son of Groucho

 Hope everyone has had a great week! This one has flown by for me. How is it already Friday? If yours has been a whirlwind too and you need to catch up, here are the best writing links I've come across this week.


But first a quick announcement. I've joined forces with a few other author moms to start a new group blog called Peanut Butter on the Keyboard. We'll be blogging about parenthood and balancing the writing life with family life. Hope you'll stop by and say hi for our inaugural post!


Alright, now on to the links...


On Writing/Publishing:
On Social Media:


Just For Gits and Shiggles:
What You May Have Missed Here:

That's all I've got for the week. What were some of your favorite links this week? Feel free to share them in the comments. Hope y'all have a great weekend!

Fill Me In Friday - Best Writing Links of the Week

 Had a busy week? Need to catch up? Well, it's that time of week again. Here are the best links I ran across this week.

On Writing/Publishing/Social Networking:

6 Tips To Resuscitate a Dying Author Blog | WritersDigest.com

56 Ways to Market Your Business on Pinterest | Copyblogger

4 ways to bounce back when your confidence takes a beating - Tawna Fenske

3 Ways Authors Can Use Pinterest Guilt Free | Author Media

Who Do You Think You Are? | Kait Nolan and Someone Else’s Life « There's A Story In Everything

Mike Mullin, Author: I Write Dirty Books, and I'm Proud of It

The Future of Sharing on Facebook, Twitter and Google+

P A R A F A N T A S Y: This Is Utterly Ridiculous…I Can’t Even. <--This shocked me (about author of Vampire Diaries)

Follow with Google Friend Connect? Not Anymore! | Kenra Daniels

Where to Blog | Choosing The Right Blog Hosting Site - Elle LaPraim - Great overview

Does Being An Introvert or an Extrovert Affect Blogging? | Jenny Hansen's Blog

Seeking the Write Life: Self-Editing #9 - Getting Specific: NOUNS

6 Blogging Tips For Dummies…By A Dummy | Business 2 Community

Anne R. Allen's Blog: Trolls, Sockpuppets, and Cyberbullies—How to Blog Part IV


What You May Have Missed Here:


Made of Win Monday: Local Dive Restaurants


Boyfriend of the Week - Valentine's Edition



3 Core Components of a Blockbuster Blog



Blog Commenting - Is It Going Extinct?


So that's what I've got for the week. What have been some of your favorite links this week? Have a great weekend!

3 Core Components of a Blockbuster Blog

Photo by Katie Killary (click photo for link)Since I recently left my well-established Blogger writing blog to come over here and try to build something more well-rounded on my website, I've been doing a lot of thinking about what my goals are over here. (Okay, actually kidlet woke up at 3am last night and I was up for 2 hours lying in the dark, which led me to thinking about such things.) And this led me to look at some of the most successful blogs out there to determine what makes them so awesome.

Now I could sit here and list at least a hundred things about having a clean web design, about a consistent schedule, about promotion, etc. But I really wanted to look the core components of those blockbuster blogs. And what I discovered was that it had everything to do with what the blog provided to the reader. Duh, right? But here's what I mean...

People Read Blogs for Three Main Reasons

1. To be informed or inspired

We want information and can't seem to get enough of it. If a blog can teach us how to do something, help us fix a problem, or enlighten us on a topic, we will be there. 


2. To be entertained

All that information can be exhausting, so another reason we seek out blogs is because we want to enjoy ourselves and be entertained. If a blog can make us laugh or make us forget about work for a while, it's going to keep us coming back.


3. To connect

All this social networking we do is, at its root, about connecting. And blogs can often provide that as well. This can either be someone trying to connect with the author of the blog (readers wanting to connect with a favorite author, writers wanting to connect with a blogging literary agent, etc.) or it can be readers of the blog connecting with each other in the comments.


Now some blogs focus only on one of these. For instance, there are thousands of blogs giving writing how-to information. Ones that do it in a strict teaching style are focused primarily on INFORMING.  Other sites may only be there to get a laugh. 

And if a site does that one thing REALLY well, they don't need to focus on the other two. You can be a big deal with just one done well. Think Copyblogger for informing and things like Damn You, Autocorrect for entertaining.


But for most of us, building that kind of site and following are a little unrealistic. We're writers. Our goal is to write and publish books, not to be professional bloggers. We can build a nice, healthy following. I managed to do it with Fiction Groupie even though I was an unpublished writer with no platform to speak of when I started it.


(Though, one can argue that if my goal was to reach beyond my peer group of writers, then I probably was unsuccessful. It was a writing blog for writers. I don't regret that. The people I've met and the network I'm now a part of are the best rewards. However, I am making an effort to expand my range of topics these days so that non-writing readers can also find something worthwhile here.)


But if you're trying to build a blog that will have an active and engaged following, then perhaps look at ways that you can tap into all three components above. Think of the Smart Bitches, Trashy Books site. She INFORMS by providing honest book reviews, she ENTERTAINS because she's damn funny, and she helps readers CONNECT with each other via the comments and their shared interests of romance novels.  It's a winning recipe.


So I'm taking a hard look at this new bloggy home and wondering where I can improve in these three areas. I'm always most comfortable with the informing thing. That's my comfort zone. And I hopefully manage to be entertaining at times, though I can always improve on that.


And connecting...well, that has dropped off a bit, unfortunately. I used to have a thriving comments section at Fiction Groupie, but when things got busier and I wasn't able to respond to all comments every day and wasn't able to visit other blogs and comment regularly, that community aspect dropped off a bit. Now I find myself doing the community thing more on Twitter. I'm not sure how to fix that here as I think commenting is a dying art across the blogosphere. But we'll see.


I have no notions of becoming a blockbuster blogger, but a healthy blog is a happy blog. : )


So think of the blogs that you return to consistently--what are things that keep you coming back? Which of the three areas are those blogs focusing on? And what do you think you do best on your own blog? What do you think you can improve?

It's YOUR Blog (and You Can Pimp If You Want To)

Photo by Raffi Asdourian I'm annoyed. Not specifically at one person but more a nebulous cloud of annoyance aimed in the general direction of certain kinds of people on the internet.

We all know about blog trolls--those I-have-no-real-life-so-I-live-to-bitch-at-and-insult-perfect-strangers (usually via cop-out anonymous comments.) For the most part, the best way to handle these foul creatures is to ignore them completely. Don't poke them with a stick because they only get more unintelligent and vile when acknowledged.

We all understand those people are just another part of the internet. But what is fueling my annoyance lately is that I've noticed more and more writers acting decidely troll-like. And nowhere was this more evident than on former-agent-turned-author Nathan Bransford's blog last week.

Nathan did a tongue-and-cheek post about having a pledge drive and asked people that if they enjoyed his blog to consider buying his book. The post was polite and light-hearted. No biggie, right? Well, apparently it was to some people. A few of his blog readers jumped his shit like Nathan had asked them to sacrifice the blood of their first born child to him. It was ridiculous.

Newsflash from Captain Obvious: Authors are expected to promote their books. And, hello, it's HIS blog.

He didn't come to your house and hand you a flyer, he didn't clutter your inbox with an email pimping his book, he didn't spam you on Twitter. He talked about HIS book on HIS blog. Being insulted that he did that is like being insulted someone walked around their own house naked. His blog is his place to talk about whatever he wants. It's your decision whether you stop by to read it or not.

Newsflash from Captain Obvious' Sidekick--Mr. Well Duh - Most of the people online who are blogging regularly are doing it as a form of self-promotion.

Yes, connecting with others and sharing ideas are the bigger pieces of it. But I can tell you (as someone who has blogged 5 days/week for two years) that blogging that consistently is HARD work and a time suck. I enjoy doing it and am so grateful for all the people I've met through it, but at the end of the day, I'm not going to lie--I also hope it helps sell my books.

And as someone who has spent all this time blogging and making an effort to provide hopefully helpful (fiction groupie) or fun (this blog) content, I don't want to feel guilty about asking readers to consider buying my book when it comes out. I'm not going to beat anyone over the head with it, but I'm also not going to apologize for bringing it up.

And I certainly don't feel offended if a writer I follow and enjoy does the same. If I like your blog and have gotten to know you online, I WANT to buy your book and show my support. In fact, I did it yesterday for Tawna Fenske. It's a nice thing to do. And an effective way to find good books since chances are if you like their voice on their blog, you'll probably enjoy their writing as well.

So you writers out there, stop apologizing when you do a little self-promotion. It's okay. It's part of your job. Asking people to consider your book does not mean you've become one of those annoying people on Twitter or Goodreads whose first message to a new follower is "Check out my book at wesuck dot com!" 

If you are taking time to genuinely connect with other people and, as Kristen Lamb says in her books on social media, being service-minded--meaning go into social networking with the mentality of what can I do to be of service to others?--you're going to be fine. It's the "me, me, me" people that give self-promotion a bad name and an icky feeling. You are not that person. Nathan Bransford is not that person. That person is busy setting up auto-post "buy my book" tweets on Twitter.

So be friendly, be genuine, and be comfortable promoting something you've worked hard on.

Now, enough about that, who wants to pre-order CRASH INTO YOU? ;)

How do you feel about self-promotion? What annoys you about it? Do you mind when a blogger/writer you like talks about their book? What completely turns you off when it comes to self-promotion?